Should christians use online dating sites

If done right, the dating process (including online dating) should enhance your ability to walk with God and follow his leading.

So don’t view each dating relationship as pass or fail depending on if you marry that person or not.

If you know you have a history of picking guys who are handsome over honoring, rich over respectful, or charismatic over Christ-centered, then you need to be very careful online dating.

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Learn what God wants you to learn through each date.

#6: Don’t Forget the True Goal of Dating/Online Dating The most important goal of dating is to figure out if this person is your future spouse.

You are making a serious step forward in being very active and not passive in your hopes to find a spouse. If you are going to meet someone you met online for the first time, it’s not a bad idea to bring a friend along.

The danger here is that once you start pressing forward, you might press forward too hard and compromise since you want to find a Christian spouse so bad. I know online dating might be embarrassing for some (even though it shouldn’t be). If the person you are dating is solid, he (or she) will respect your concern for safety and appreciate the effort you are putting in to find a solid spouse. Will you probably jump way ahead in your mind, imagining if this person will make a good dad to your 3 children named Heather, Austin, and Frank? But then come back to reality and live with realistic expectations.

If the relationship ends, you accomplished the goal of dating because you’ve learned this person is not the one for you. But if I had to put a number on it, I personally think a healthy dating season is around a year or two.

It might seem like a waste of time if you dated someone and then broke up; but if through dating this person you learned he or she is not your future spouse, then you did not waste your time. You want to give yourself enough time to really get to know this person.

Wasting your time in dating only happens when you continue to date someone even after you know for certain you are not going to marry him or her. You should date them as long as you need to help you know for certain that God wants you to marry him or her. But you also don’t want to wait too long since the temptation will be to act like your married when you’re not (emotionally, sexually, and etcetera).

You’ll have to walk with God on deciding how long you should date someone before you marry him or her.

But as long as you are relying on biblical wisdom, listening to the counsel of your Christian community, and truly trying to honor God, there is nothing inherently sinful about online dating.

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