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But how would you respond to women who feel this way?

Christelyn: Black women have a unique set of challenges in the dating market.

The internet has been an absolute boon for people who are open to dating interracially.

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If she wants to be married, have children, etc., the numbers just aren’t in her favor to remain exclusive to Black men.

Why is it “problematic” to open yourself up to other men who might love you?

Learn more about Christelyn via her blog, Beyond Black & White, and check out her book, Swirling: How to Date, Mate, and Relate Mixing Race, Culture, and Creed.

Mark Whitlock’s church, Christ Our Redeemer African Methodist Episcopal Church in Orange County, California.

No one is suggesting Black women avoid black men altogether. We’ve been trying to “work through our issues” for over a century.

Why can’t it be Black men and all men, instead of black men or no one at all? I’m not willing to keep sacrificing my sisters for the sake of the cause.

I’ve often been called by my critics, “The Chief Bed Wench,” because I’m seen at the forefront of this issue. But many Black women are sensitive to that kind of insult and outright disapproval. We want the people in our lives to approve of the men we bring home. It comes down to what makes you happy and what makes your heart feel like it’s found its home.

It kind of throws a damper on the inclination to explore interracial dating if you know your parents said they would disown you if you ever brought home a white boy. I’m seeing more and more Black women finding their bliss with the men who love and accept them, regardless of race. If you’re lonely and sad, but your entire peer group (including family) approves of the idea of never dating a non-Black man even if he was utterly kick-ass amazing, can you really say those people in your life want the best for you?

Candice: Another question I get a lot from Black women who are looking to date outside their race is how can they put themselves in the position to meet a man?

Even in my own experience I feel like men either assume that I don’t date outside my race or they have hangups about how they’d introduce me to their friends/family (which presents another issue).

I mean actual, real-life interracial relationships. Despite its higher representation on TV and in pop culture, this is still a taboo subject, and one that is often met with a range of emotions that are not always positive.

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