Dating your spouse

Cathy Meyer is a certified divorce coach, marriage educator, freelance writer, and founding editor of Divorced

As a divorce mediator, she provides clients with strategies and resources that enable them to power through a time of adversity.

They may feel that no matter what they do, they cannot or, are not getting what they feel they need from the relationship.

If you are a cheating spouse make sure that one of the problems below is not causing you to throw your marriage away just to keep from having to deal with them open and honestly.

Whatever you feel the problems are in your marriage you owe it to yourself and your spouse to get honest with him/her.

You will have both grown and learned from the situation and hopefully won’t take the same issues into a new relationship.

This is also another very predictable statement that will come from a cheating spouse.

This is what happens in many relationships that fall victim to infidelity.

The spouse who strays has spent years investing time, emotion and energy in the marriage.

The only way to know if the “I love you but I’m not in love with you statement,” is coming from someone who is stuck or someone who truly is no longer in love is to be willing to explore the problems in the marriage and take responsibility for your part in the problems.

If, after doing this, the marriage still fails you can both move on knowing you tried to work through the problems.

You need to not only say what is on your mind but to also listen to what your spouse has to say.

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