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There's not much fuss that can be made over her "reason" (and that's exactly why she chose it)She used it as an excuse.

People are often avoidant of confrontation or just plain shitty.

I often think this is why people say "be yourself." It's really because the other side wants to see your red flags flapping in the wind from a safe distance.

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Maybe she likes "fix it" projects - she wants to fix him and make him a better person.

Maybe she likes something about him that she doesn't see in you.

If she previously said it wasn’t an issue and you didn’t do anything to make it an issue (ie., talk ad nauseam about being in recovery cuz that does get really old)... However, as someone who has been in multiple codependent and emotionally manipulative, relationships I would encourage you to see her choice in a positive light.

Once she realized that you have a Higher Power, and that she was not it, and that she could not influence and control you, she found someone in denial that could be more easily manipulated.

One that people would understand without questioning. You're assuming she was being completely honest with you about her reasons. everyone has their personal reasons and without their perspective, it's difficult to question it.

You’d hope that at our age, we could have open truthful dialogue . And totally useless to dissect it, cause understanding her isn't going to help to understand what anyone else would think of you. you're free to move on and now available to be with someone who won't be critical of your past.

I think that your ex gf is most likely seeking her own level.

She is attracted to and wants to be involved with someone in active addiction, and she may have a history of growing up in a family effected by addiction.

There is no understanding some people's decision making process.

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