Dating an older woman with kids

I’m now in my early 50s and about 30 years ago I met a woman who blew me away.She was sophisticated, stunningly beautiful and seemed beyond my reach.Earlier, you both took on fear and overcame it with huge success so I wonder if you can again engage and meet each other where you are at with full openness and honesty.

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I know she is worried about me leaving and she does not challenge me in the way she used to and is always checking up on where I am and who I’m with.

We did not have any children and it’s only in the past few years I’ve been thinking about this and wondering if I still have a chance for this in my life.

It seems that you both are currently contributing to the question marks around your relationship but you are not talking together about it.

This is probably due to fear: fear of causing hurt and upset and fear of bringing on the ending.

If you continue to struggle with this decision, I recommend some sessions with a psychotherapist or psychologist to help you unravel your own issues in this situation.

This is a very important decision and it deserves all the time and attention you can give it.I feel so bad for thinking this way, but it’s getting harder to ignore the reality of her age and I am simply not near this phase of life myself.Answer: It feels that you are paralysed in your relationship and this may be mirrored by your partner who is now afraid that if she challenges you or admits her insecurity she will drive you away.Perhaps this is what is really happening in your relationship – she is now very insecure and you are both reacting to this by standing back and evaluating instead of getting stuck in together and working things out.It seems you were very attracted to her independence of spirit and her beauty and now she is concerned about these things and you may be feeling that you have lost something that was very valuable to you.Predicting an outcome is not possible but you have desires and needs that need to be discussed and your partner also has desires and fears that she is currently keeping to herself.

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